I found this quote in Sylvia’s Unabridged Journals, from when she was about 21. Jealousy, and envy, are terrible traits, but we’re all guilty of them. We all have that ‘gold star’ mentality in us.
I am jealous of those who think more deeply, who write better, who draw better, who ski better, who look better, who live better, who love better than I.
We’ve all been jealous, or envious. Admit it. These emotions fire us, shape us, fuel us, and destroy us. Being jealous is a terrible thing. A completely destructive emotion that does nothing but make us feel bad, and can ruin relationships.
It’s also a very ‘human’ thing to feel. And in the days of social media, and the constant over-sharing of lives, looks, and loves on the internet, it’s way too easy to get caught up in the ‘I want their life’ mood.
But, like with most things on the internet, we need to be mindful of the actual reality behind that perfect Instagram account, that amazing home, those beautiful clothes, that shiny healthy hair, etc, etc.
We also need to stop looking for the ‘Gold Star’ in everything we do.
Yes, we want to be the best we can be, but other people are going to be better sometimes, and we should celebrate their achievements, rather than envy them.
We can’t all be top of the class, and is it not actually a wee bit boring to be so good all of the time?!
Gold stars are so overrated. Be happy with your achievement, no matter how big or small, and stop comparing yourself to others.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel! Self-belief and self-confidence are wonderful things!