Open Boxes

I love the message in today’s Sylvia quote from Initiation from Johnny Panic & The Bible of Dreams.  We are all too judgemental, too dismissive, and it’s wrong. Embrace people, dig a little deeper, be interested, and you will be surprised.

So many people are shut tight up inside themselves like boxes, yet they would open up, unfolding quite wonderfully, if only you were interested in them

blog boxesWe are all guilty of not being interested enough in other people. Particularly in the self-obsessed world we now live in, where what we do, and how we portray ourselves is considered most important of all.

I am as guilty as the next person. I like to think that as I have grown older, I have realised that being self-absorbed, and self-obsessed are not great personality traits, and that sometimes the people who say little do so because they find it almost impossible to project themselves.

They  may be suffering from depression, they may just be shy, they may have massive insecurities and anxieties, and feel invisible.  So, it’s time for us to see them.

I remember meeting someone years ago at a book club I went to, and she was the most painfully shy person I think I had ever come across. Part of me just wanted to ignore her, but the nicer side of my personality just couldn’t. I had to include her in everything – and that meant post group drinks, and other activities. I invited her to my house, and at times she said, quite literally, nothing – for hours at a time.

But when she did open up, she had brilliant, funny and interesting things to say. Always be interested in other people. Always engage people, and never dismiss people on first impressions. That is how we should be, I know it’s not always how I am, but acknowledging it, and trying to right it, is a start at least.